Dealing with Betrayal: "Don't Create an Absalom!"


Betrayal - (unfaithfulness, disloyalty, duplicity, treachery, infidelity, perfidy)


When Father's don't correct and chastise their children for words and deeds done against one another it breeds discontentment. David did absolutely nothing to Amnon when he raped his half sister Tamar.

(II Samuel 13:1-14 reveal the story line)


 Vs.15 reveals that "there's a thin line between love and hate."


Vs. 20 - when one is the victim of disgrace and dishonor and the offense is not dealt with "desolation" set in.  (misery, despair, anguish, despondency, sadness)


Vs. 23-38 gives us the "premeditated" thoughts and plan of Absalom. He plotted this scheme for two years. Vs. 32 shares with us the "intensity" of Absalom's hatred for Amnon.


The Lack of:

        Parental Discipline

        Premeditated Deception

         Problematic Dysfunction


Absalom demonstrates a cowardly ploy when he sends his men to do his dirty work for him. (vs.28-29) it would appear that Absalom would have enjoyed the opportunity to kill his brother himself, but he didn't.


Absalom is a lesson about "Passion Gone Bad." The Prophet Nathan had prophesied to the King that the "sword would not leave his house." (12:10) True to the prediction "domestic problems" flooded the house of David - deception, adultery, incest and even murder.


Absalom was irate because his father did nothing about Amnon raping Tamar and Absalom took matters into his own hands. (13:22) when "justice is delayed," rebellion ensues.


Absalom - "peaceful"

The beauty of his hair (the glory of a woman) is what he got entangled in.

Ahiphophel Hushai  


1.     Wanted a "Audience" with his Father

2.     Got "Angry" at the lack of "justice" (David banished him 13:37-38)

3.     Felt "Abandoned"

4.     "Avenged" his sister (became a criminal) & set Joab's fields on fire  


Resentment - Rebellion - Revenge


2 yrs. - cunningness (plotting the demise of his brother)

3 yrs. - exile - (father banished him from the kingdom)

4 yrs. - undermining David, building his up reputation (upon his return)


Goes to Hebron and declares himself King after leaving his grand-father.


He used his "passion" to propel the sabotage of his Father's leadership. Gain the hearts of the people by politicking and convincing them to bring their problems to him for counsel. He lobbied for support and rose up an army to rebel against his father.


Absalom's story is contained in Chapters 13-18 of II Samuel. He represents a leader that can't bridle his "passion." (fervor, craze, enthusiasm, excitement, zeal, obsession, ardor) If you embrace passion before you learn "submission" you will always in up in trouble.


        Passion without "perspective" brings death (13:22-29)

        Passion will find "expression," in either healthy or unhealthy ways (14:28-30)

        People follow passion over "orthodoxy," even when it's unwise (15:1-12)

        Passion always "defeats Protocol" in leadership (15:13-14)

        Self-centered passion always "skews the judgment" of a leader (16:22)

        "Un-channeled and unbridled" passion damages everyone near it (17:18)

        When passion outweighs wisdom, leaders "sabotage" themselves (18:9)



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